I have ADHD and want to know how do you suggest overcoming listening issues? When someone is talking to me and I’m saying “yeah” / “yes”, when they’re offering advice or giving me instructions it might look like it I’m listening but my mind has wandered off having completely un-related thoughts or day dreaming. Once they walk away I don’t remember a word in they said.
Having ADHD can make it really hard to stay focused while another person is going blah, blah, blah even if it’s information you want. What’s great is that you are aware that your attention is wondering. You can use that awareness to fix the problem.
Here are three basic tactics for addressing this problem.
- Get ahead of the situation but recognizing when it’s about to happen. Say you’ve asked your co-worker a question and you know from experience, their answer is not going to be quick and to the point.
- Get your pen and paper handy to take notes
- Repeat back to the person what he/she just said to you but in your own words. g. “So what you’re saying is…”
- Record what’s being said to playback later. Depending on the situation of course, because whipping out a Dictaphone could be weird in some instances, but it’s one sure way to capture exactly what’s being said.
- Ask the person who is talking to you to, kindly, make it succinct. Remember it’s OK to advocate for yourself.
Whatever you do, practice recognising when you are setting yourself up for receiving an onslaught of words and come prepared to manage the information.
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